I have to admit it that I do not want to say no to others. Whenever a friend or relative has a request, I’ll say yes as soon as I can be of assistance. Part of this is because I don’t want to leave people dangling and the second part stems from not wanting to disappoint friends and family. Furthermore, another part of me also feels that saying no possibly means burning bridges with people, and I don’t like to jeopardize my relationships with other people.

While saying yes seems like an easy answer for the motives above, it’s not actually the best answer every single time. Each time we say yes to something, we’re actually saying no to another thing. Look at how you’ve been living your life the past week and think about what you’ve been automatically saying yes to.

Most of us normally say yes to small requests that come in because it will most likely not appear to be like a big issue at that time. Nonetheless, you could certainly keep on saying yes to tasks, requests, and pleas for help, but you’ll never be able to live the life you would like. If every minor request wastes 15 minutes, then a few of these requests a day will easily tally up to hours. Start to think in regards to months and years, and contemplate all of the years you are letting slip through your hands.

From my opinion, saying no ultimately amounts to respecting yourself. If you respect yourself, then you will also respect your spare time. You will be very conscious of the way in which you invest it. You’ll say no to activities which aren’t a good match for your passions, because you know you are worthy of more than that. You’ll say no to stuff that you do not enjoy, because you would rather use your time doing things you enjoy.

Often, most of us don’t say no because we don’t really know what exactly to say no for, besides a nagging awareness that you don’t like to do something. To get beyond that, think about your ideal goals and your dream outcome. Come up with a clear idea of your long-term vision with regard to yourself. After you know what your vision is, it’ll be remarkably easy to say no, because at this time you have a very clear reason to do so. The clearer you are, the far easier it will be to say no, since you know you’ll be taking a chance on this vision each time you say yes to anything at all that doesn’t help you get closer to your vision.

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